SOMETHING WORTH-SHARING.

I think it’s great that no matter what stages we are in life, we can come together as women, share, empathize and learn from each other. When one of my readers asked me to share about relying on God as a single woman, I didn’t know where to begin. I could fill books and books with mistakes made and lessons learned as I have a lot of experience being single.

One of my favorite quotes on this topic is by Marian Jordan, “Marriage doesn’t make you happy. It just makes you married.” Same goes to boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. If you are waiting for a relationship to fix all your problems and make life perfect you are in for a rude awakening. Jerry Maguire had it wrong; no one person is going to complete you. Only in a relationship with Christ can we be made whole and even then we are still broken, sinful people who make mistakes.

Is it hard to trust in God when it seems like EVERYONE except me is dating, engaged or married? Of course it is! I struggle with this more than I would care it admit, but ultimately I have faith in God and His plan for my life. When I’m down and out, heartbroken and crying in my room because the guy I care about doesn’t feel the same way about me, I go back to what I know to be true. God has an excellent track record. He has NEVER let me down. He has NEVER left me alone. He has ALWAYS provided for me. He has ALWAYS loved me. So even though things are difficult in the moment, I believe, without a doubt, that God’s plan for my life is better than anything I could imagine for myself. Remember, sometimes rejection is God’s protection.

During my time of singleness, what I didn't do were the following:

-Waiting alone in my clock tower for my prince to come.

-Going out to bars to meet guys.

-Listening to Satan’s lies that I’m not good enough or that something is wrong with me.

-Allowing the idea of a relationship to become an idol.

-Looking to spending money, food, sex, drugs, etc to fill my heart.

During my time of singleness, what I did were the following:

-Setting goals for myself. Chasing dreams. Going on adventures. Becoming complete by myself.

-Considering the qualities that I think are important for a mate.

-Praying for my future boyfriend. hihihihiiihiih ='>

-Read blogs. Posted blogs.

-allowed God to guide me to the place where I am now.

So this is my wisdom/encouragement/direction to any of you who are in the single ladies club: take this time to learn who you are, make mistakes and learn lessons, go on adventures and have fun! Above all, put God at the center of your life and seek Him. You are a child of God and that really is enough.

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THIS WAS SUPPOSED TO BE MY BLOG POST FOR VALENTINE'S DAY: hihihi ='> 

I don’t have beef with Valentine’s Day. I think it is a fine holiday. My dislike doesn't come from being single either. What drives me bonkers is singles that treat today like it’s the worst day in the world. Singles Awareness Day. Really? And singles, have you ever gotten the look of pity from a couple. It's the worst! Today doesn't make me any more or less single than I was yesterday and tomorrow I’m still going to be single.

Please don't tell me any of the following:
*I still have plenty of time to find the one.
*If I stop looking for love I’ll find it.
*You don’t understand how someone as great as me isn't married yet.


Oh and please don’t tell me Jesus can be my boyfriend. Jesus does not want to be my boyfriend. I’m done with trite and flippant statements. Being single doesn't make me feel like crap, but things like that totally do. You might as well tell me that I’m pathetic and who I am is not enough.

Being single does not define me. I’m 19, will soon be graduating for the course I dearly love. I am a daughter, sister, friend, etc. I work hard for my studies. I get good grades as a payback for my parent's sacrifices. I set big goals. I live my life. And I happen to not have a significant other. That doesn’t make me less of a person.

Being single doesn't mean there is anything wrong with me.I happen to think I’m a pretty neat lady.Yeah, 

I’m a little awkward and goofy, but I’m confident and I like myself. I don’t need anyone to save me, give me praise or tell me I’m worthy. I’m happy with my life and who I am. No joke. I’m totally serious.

I guess my point is that I think we should to be content WHATEVER our relationship status happens to be on facebook. 

If you’re single, GREAT! Enjoy this time! Find out who you are and what you’re passionate about. Challenge yourself to become better. Live abundantly.

If you’re dating/engaged/married, that’s great too! You have someone to make out with and cook you pancakes whenever you want. Kidding! Kind of. ;) Challenge each other to become better. Live abundantly.

Find joy where you are at in life. Single or not. Happy Valentine's Day!